A public exhibition: The Marriage Bed (Foucault)
Michel Foucault’s The History of Sexuality is an essay that deals with the “revision of power” in the context of sex. I will admit that the texts for this week were not the easiest to understand at first for me. The languages had a level of jargon and complexity that was fascinating but initially difficult to access for me. For Foucault’s essay, I had to read it a few times to form a basic understanding of the concept of sex and its relationship with power. Even then, I recognize that my analysis of a part of it may not encompass all the finer points of the work. One thing that stood out to me was how he describes what happens when notions of power and notions of societal expectations surrounding sex converge in the marriage bed. He writes that “they were all centered on matrimonial relations…the sex of husband and wife was beset by rules and recommendations…constraints…detailed accounting of itself…constant surveillance…lacking, it had to come forward”… (pg. 1433). This lack of privacy afforded to the marriage bed and the level of scrutiny placed on it by society reminded me of the social construct of virginity and its obsession with genitalia in that one’s genitalia is expected (especially for women) before the ceremony to not have “evidence” of having been involved in sexual intercourse before and then have corresponding evidence after the fact to prove that the marriage was consummated. Marriage rather than liberating the couple from the scrutiny of their sexual relationship only serves to increase the level of scrutiny they are subjected to by society. As a Bengali American, I have observed that in some parts of the Global South even in Bengali communities in the US, the virginity or lack thereof that a woman possesses is strictly regulated by society. The corresponding evidence that was traditionally looked for was blood on the bedsheet. The social construct of virginity in Bangladesh is based on the hymen. If the hymen was intact after the wedding night it would be broken and draw blood. This visible indicator would save the bride from scrutiny only for a short while until society begins to push for a child. Sex in the marriage bed must serve society first not the couple. If there is no visible indicator of virginity on the bedsheet then the bride falls out of favor from society and the family with some cases leading to an unfair divorce. Each time a regulation is fulfilled or unfilled the marriage bed has to constantly come forward. While men are not free from this construct the woman bears more of the burden. In most cultures, couples are often expected to give an account of their wedding night or announce when they’re trying for a baby. The camera trained on the marriage bed is never turned off. In this way, society and the state maintains its power over the marriage bed and thus the couple. To take it a step further, in some cases opposition to affirming the right of queer couples to be married is maintained on the grounds that society is not able to exert the same level of power over their marriage bed because without surrogacy or adoption there is no baby thus their marriage has no social or biological value.


